As you’re figuring out your way after the divorce, you may hear a lot of opinions on how the process should look. Let’s bust some of those myths. a) “You should be over it by” now”—being “over” a divorce is not a straightforward, time-bound process; it looks different for everyone.b) “Finding someone new will fix everything”—while” a new relationship can offer some comfort and distraction, it cannot be a replacement for your inner work. True healing comes from recognizing your own patterns, emotional tendencies, and boundaries and dealing with them in a healthy manner.c) “If you’re staying busy, it means you’re” fine”—work and other obligations can be wonderful distractions while giving you the sense of achievement. However, they should not be used to delay the emotional work of processing the divorce.d) “You should be angry at your ex-spouse”—while” anger is a natural emotion that would follow a divorce, it is not the only one. You might feel a mix of emotions of anger, grief, self-pity, sadness, regret, etc. You don’t need to feel angry at your ex-spouse in order to heal from divorce.