Support Groups for Deciding When to Have Kids in India

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Support Groups for Deciding When to Have Kids: Navigating One of Life’s Biggest Decisions Together

“So, when are you having kids?” - If you’re married in India, you’ve probably heard this question more times than you can count. Sometimes it’s playful, sometimes it’s a serious interrogation, but the expectations underlying the question are very evident. And in response, behind the smiles, polite nods, or rehearsed answers, many people are quietly struggling with the decision - “When do we want to have kids?”

It may sound simple enough - now or later. But in reality, it’s one of the most complex decisions of adult life, intertwined with factors like biology, finances, careers, family pressures, and fears about the future. A support group for deciding when to have kids is not about someone telling you the “right” time. It’s about participating in a space where you can hear different perspectives, share your own confusion, and slowly get clearer about what feels right for you.

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Why is this such a big decision?

The decision to have a child involves reshaping your entire life. People feel the need to weigh out various factors before finalizing when is the right time, such as:

  • Career and ambition: For many individuals, the early years of work are about growth, travel, financial stability, or even just figuring out what kind of life they want. Kids can therefore feel like a pause button, and not everyone is ready for that.
  • Energy and growing age: Some may worry that waiting too long might mean less physical energy for parenting duties later on. Others may feel that maturity and stability that come with age would make them better parents.
  • Biological considerations: Fertility isn’t a guarantee forever. Women especially face pressure around “biological clocks.” With egg freezing and other fertility treatments now entering conversations to buy more time, people can consider postponing their pregnancy timeline. However, that too comes with its own costs and emotional weight.
  • Finances and support systems: Raising a child in today’s India is expensive. From education to healthcare to simply wanting to provide a certain lifestyle, money matters more than we’d like to admit.
  • Emotional readiness: Sometimes it’s not even about age, money, or biology. It’s just about truthfully asking yourself: “Am I ready to give a part of myself away to raise a child right now?”

Many people are afraid to voice out the uncomfortable question: “Am I postponing the chapter of having kids because the timing isn’t right? Or because deep down, I’m not even sure if I want kids at all?”

Why a support group helps

Here’s the thing - most people don’t have a safe, non-judgmental space to talk about all this. Families and friends, even with the best intentions, often bring in their own biases. Some might say, “sooner the better,” while others might dismiss your concerns with “it’ll all work out.” But what if you don’t want generic advice? What if you just want to talk through your fears, hear real stories, and feel less alone in your confusion?

That’s where a support group for deciding when to have kids comes in. It’s a group of people in the exact same boat - wondering, debating, worrying, dreaming. In this space, you can:

  • Voice the thoughts you’ve never got the chance to say out loud.
  • Hear how others are making sense of similar dilemmas.
  • Realize your worries and doubts are valid.
  • Untangle the mess of expectations and focus on what matters to you and your partner.

Because sometimes, just saying things out loud helps you see them differently. And other times, someone else’s story sparks a thought you hadn’t considered earlier. That’s the beauty of shared reflection.

Why this matters even more in India

In India, the decision of when to have kids rarely feels like it belongs to an individual or couple alone. There are subtle (and not so subtle) reminders everywhere: relatives dropping hints, peers announcing pregnancies, even random acquaintances asking questions they wouldn’t dare ask in other cultures. 

Delay in child planning can often be seen as risky or selfish, rather than a thoughtful choice. This in turn can make the internal pressure worse. Couples may end up rushing into decisions just to get rid of everyone’s persistence, not because they’ve truly thought it through. 

“Deciding when to have kids” support group offers relief in this regard by offering a place where nobody is keeping score, where no one is waiting for you to “announce” anything.

Who can join?

This support group is for anyone feeling confused and stuck in their dilemmas. That could include:

  • Couples debating if this year is the right year, or the next one, or five years later.
  • Individuals thinking about fertility, egg freezing, or balancing work with future family planning.
  • People who feel torn between external pressures and internal hesitation.
  • Those who just want to slow down, hear different experiences, and make a more informed decision.

You don’t have to come fully prepared. You just have to come with questions and the willingness to seek your own answers.

How things work at SoulUp

At SoulUp, support groups are designed to be safe, warm, and non-judgmental. Sessions are conducted online on Zoom, in groups of 5-7, guided by trained therapists who make sure that the space is respectful and inclusive. Everyone gets a chance to share, and no one is forced to talk if they’re not ready. What’s said in the room stays in the room because confidentiality is a non-negotiable.

The agenda of the group is not to find a “perfect” timeline or reach a unanimous decision. It’s about helping each member sort through their own thoughts, listen to others who are navigating similar dilemmas, and walk away with more clarity than they came in with.

The freedom to choose your “when”

Deciding when to have kids can feel overwhelming because it’s tied to every part of your life, be it health, finances, careers, relationships, or even identity. Thus, it’s not a decision that should be rushed or made in isolation. 

Keeping that in mind, “deciding when to have kids” support group will offer you the room to process, the community to lean on, and the perspective to make choices that feel right for you. Because at the end of the day, there’s no one-size-fits-all answer. There’s only your answer. And sometimes, finding it is easier when you have the support of similar people.

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What are SoulUp Groups?

At SoulUp, you'll meet people who get what you're going through and might be living some of the same realities. People looking for extraordinary conversations, just like you.

✔️ Small group, 6-8 people

✔️ Every meeting led by a world-class facilitator

✔️ Weekly 75-minute online video sessions

What happens in a group session?

While the format can vary as per topic, here’s a flow that most sessions follow

Check In. Participants check-in with each others' feelings and answer the prompt given by the facilitator if any.

Conversation. Your facilitator will guide the group in a free-flowing conversation—with the goal of sharing openly, talking honestly, and deep emotional connection.

Check Out. Participants share what they're taking away from the session.

What am I going to get out of this?

Participants say that they feel heard, understood, more in control, and a feeling that you’ve got people rooting for you. By talking about your emotions and what's going on in your life, you'll realise that you're not alone and get ideas for how to improve your situation.