Grief Self-Assessment: Understand How You're Coping with Loss

The loss of a loved one can be one of the most painful things one has to endure. The sheer dread, numbness, and quiet shock that follow can make one feel like the loss is too much to bear. While grieving is a complex process, unique to each individual, it is inevitably an enduring effort, affecting all parts of our life. If you’re coping with the loss of a loved one, you might have questions like, What is it that I’m feeling? Is it ‘normal?’ And how long will it continue? This assessment can be a starting point to gaining that clarity in this tumultuous time of your life.

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Grief Self Assessment Test

What This Self‑Assessment Covers

This self-assessment helps you explore how you’re processing loss, what challenges you face. It explores:

1. Emotional expression: Comfort in sharing and processing feelings about your loss.
2. Coping strategies: How you manage triggers, anniversaries, and daily challenges.
3. Impact on daily life: Changes in routines, relationships, and future outlook.
4. Support systems: Openness to seeking help from friends, family, or community.
5. Healing and identity: Progress in your grief journey and how it shapes your sense of self.

Understanding your grief can help you find support and ways to heal while honouring the memory of the person you’ve lost.

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Who this Self‑Assessment is for.

This self-assessment is for anyone dealing with loss and wondering how it’s affecting their mental health.

1. You’ve lost someone or something significant and are struggling to move forward
2. You feel overwhelmed by sadness, anger, or numbness
3. You’re unsure if your grief is normal or prolonged
4. You want to understand how loss is affecting your emotional well-being
5. You’re looking for ways to process and live with your grief

How to Use This Self‑Assessment

To get the most from this self‑assessment:

1. Set aside a few minutes in a quiet, private space
2. Reflect or journal as you respond
3. Bring your insights to therapy or support groups
4. Revisit the self‑assessment periodically, especially as you heal

Each response is just for you. The point of this self‑assessment is just to understand your current situation and emotional gaps.

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Grief: The Process and Effects

While grief can be an extremely overwhelming and difficult experience, it is a completely natural response to loss. There is no fixed process or timeline to grief, as it may look different for everyone depending on factors such as your personality and coping style, the nature of your relationship with the person who passed, the circumstances of the loss, and your past life experiences.


You may experience a wide range of emotions - sadness, anger, shock, guilt, fear, or numbness. These emotions may come and go and vary in intensity. This pattern can seem unpredictable, as grief often comes in waves. Physical and behavioral symptoms may also be experienced - loss of appetite, sleep disturbances, aches and pains, confusion, fatigue, and a general lack of motivation. You may see changes in your daily schedule, your work and other responsibilities, and how you interact with others. All these changes are completely normal and get better with time.


As grief is often a collective experience, how others react to it might have an effect on how you process your grief. You may feel the pressure to match someone’s pace of recovery, worrying that you’re either recovering too slowly or too fast; you may even find yourself setting your grief aside to care for others. But the truth is there is no right or wrong way of grieving, just the ongoing work of processing your emotions and making space for the grief.

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Anchoring Yourself in the Process of Grief

Since grief can feel disorienting and all-consuming, it is understandable to want to do away with all the pain. But gentle self-reflection at your own pace can help you find your way in the recovery process. Journaling is one helpful way to check in with yourself and identify deeper emotions you may be avoiding. Writing freely about your thoughts, memories, or even physical sensations can offer clarity and a sense of release. If you have a habit of using art for processing your emotions, activities like singing, poetry, dance, painting, etc. can be extremely helpful.


Conversations also serve as a mirror. Talking with people who create a safe and supportive space for you to help you figure out how you feel about the grief in real-time. If you feel okay talking about the loss - even though it hurts - it can be a sign that you are slowly recovering. Moreover, people who know you well may point out subtle changes in yourself that you might have missed.


Lastly, your own perception and feelings can be the most reliable indicators. When the heaviest phase of grief begins to clear away, you might notice a silent internal shift - living feels slightly easier and less effortful, even if the pain is still present. These quiet realizations may be the sign that healing is laying its foundation.

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Therapist-Led Support Groups

Join one of our therapist-led groups with others walking a similar path of loss for connection, comfort, and guidance

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1-on-1 Talk Therapy

Work with a therapist to process your grief at your own pace and find space for healing.

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Peer Conversations

Have a 1-on-1 video conversation with one of our verified Peers who have also experienced a similar loss to find support and perspective.

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Workshops

Choose from focused, therapist-led workshops to help build strength and start slowly re-engaging with life.

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Unsure of your next steps?

Book an Exploratory Call with one of our therapists to gain initial insights, practical solutions, and personalized guidance on the best options for your needs.

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FAQs

What are some of the myths about grief?

Common myths about grief include ideas like, “Moving on with your life means forgetting about your loss.” or “If you’re not crying, you’re not grieving,” “If you ignore your pain, it’ll go away faster,” or “You have to be strong for others.” The fact is that everyone is entitled to their own healing process, unique to themselves. Healing can only come after facing the pain straightforwardly, feeling your way through it. Healing means that you’ve accepted the loss - not that it is forgotten or vanished.

How do I know if I’m grieving or depressed?

Although the overwhelming sadness of grief may feel similar to depression, these two experiences are qualitatively different. Grief can come and go in waves - with intense highs followed by moments of relief - while depression may feel more constant and ever-present. In grief, the pain is associated with a loss, while in depression it may feel more generalized to multiple parts of your life. If you’re wondering whether you’re experiencing depression after a loss, you may ask yourself, am I slowly working my way towards healing, or do I feel stuck, isolated, and without purpose?

Why does grief feel different every day?

Losing a loved one leaves you with a shock that your mind and body need time to adjust to. Unprocessed feelings might come up in unpredictable ways - with or without any triggers. Grief responses are triggered by memories and other associations about the lost person and people, things, and places related to them. Moreover, since the experience of grief is so deeply rooted in our bodies, how we feel physically - after sleep, meals, or rest - can make the experience of grief different.

What are some signs indicating that it may be time to seek therapy or join a support group?

Processing your grief at any point in your recovery journey is a good idea. Therapy and support groups can offer you a safe, gentle, and neutral space to make sense of your emotions. Your therapist or group facilitator may also offer you tools to manage your emotions when the grief hits hard.
Specific situations when therapy can offer more help are inability to resume life and daily responsibilities, avoiding or fearing any reminders of the person, persistent guilt or self-blame, loss of interest in things that mattered before, etc.

What might happen if I keep ignoring my emotions of grief?

When the pain of grief is not processed properly, these underlying feelings show up in other ways, like withdrawal, complete numbness, or irritability and anger outbursts. If repressed for longer, grief can manifest physically in the form of persistent headaches, insomnia, chronic fatigue, etc. Suppressing these powerful negative emotions for long periods of time puts you at a higher risk of anxiety, depression, and emotional burnout.

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