Unpacking your infidelity

Name: Unpacking your infidelity
Rating: 4.68 (41 reviews)

A confidential space for those who have committed infidelity to explore their actions, understand motivations and gain clarity on relationship paths.

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Starts 30th November, 2026

4 Zoom sessions | Every Monday at 8:00 PM IST | 75 minutes

Small Group | 3-5 participants

Group Type: Support Group

Includes 3 Free Peer Calls*

Led by Therapist

Peers

Rs. 3,000.00

Platform fee

Note: This is a highly specialized support group, the start date is approximate and may shift by 1–3 weeks while we bring together a small, meaningful cohort.

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Who is the Group for?

Adults Who Have Committed Infidelity and Want to Understand Why

For those who have been unfaithful in a relationship and want to look beyond the action itself — exploring the needs, emotions, circumstances, or relationship dynamics that may have influenced their choices.
Those Sitting With Confusion, Guilt, or Mixed Emotions

If you’re feeling conflicted about what happened, uncertain about what you want, or carrying emotions such as guilt, loss, detachment, relief, or regret, this group offers a space to process them without judgment.
People Trying to Make Sense of Their Relationship

For those wondering what the infidelity means for their relationship and what comes next — whether you’re considering rebuilding trust, changing relationship dynamics, setting new boundaries, or are unsure about continuing together.
Anyone Wanting Clarity on the Way Forward

Whether you hope to rebuild your current relationship or are considering a different path, the group is for anyone who wants to understand themselves better, reflect on healthier relationship patterns, and move forward with greater clarity and intention.

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Goals of the Group

The primary goal of this group is to provide a safe, non-judgmental space for individuals who have committed infidelity to reflect on their actions, understand their motivations, and gain clarity on their current relationships. The group helps participants identify personal needs, work through complex emotions, and develop a path forward, whether that means rebuilding trust, setting boundaries, or redefining their relationship dynamics.

Glimpse of the regime

Session 1: Introduction, Goals, and Understanding Personal Needs

• Goals: Establish group trust, define personal goals, and begin exploring the motivations and needs that led to infidelity.

Activities & Therapeutic Exercise:
• Group introductions and sharing of personal objectives for the group.
• Therapist-led psychoeducation on common motivations behind infidelity (e.g., unmet needs, desire for connection or excitement).
• Guided reflection: Identify and write down personal needs or desires that may have influenced infidelity.

• Homework: Journal about how well these needs are currently met in their relationship and what they envision for the future.

Session 2: Evaluating Relationship Dynamics and Paths Forward

• Goals: Help participants assess the state of their current relationships and clarify any uncertainties about moving forward.

Activities & Therapeutic Exercise:
• Discussion on the potential impact of infidelity on relationship dynamics (trust, communication, expectations).
• Group reflection on feelings of uncertainty or ambivalence about continuing or redefining the relationship.
• Mapping exercise: Participants create a simple relationship map highlighting strengths, tensions, and areas needing clarity.

• Homework: Reflect on what a healthier version of their relationship might look like and journal about any desired changes.

Session 3: Processing Emotions and Defining Boundaries

• Goals: Allow space for processing varied emotions and introduce concepts of boundary-setting for healthier relationships.

Activities & Therapeutic Exercise:
• Therapist-led exploration of emotions surrounding infidelity, including feelings of loss, detachment, or contentment.
• Group discussion (optional sharing) of personal emotions related to their actions and relationships.
• Reflection exercise on boundaries: Identify one or two boundaries that would support emotional clarity or trust, either in the current relationship or in future ones.

• Homework: Write a short commitment letter to themselves about one boundary or trust-building action they will focus on moving forward.

Session 4: Closure, Reflections, and Intentions for the Future

• Goals: Offer closure, encourage reflections on insights gained, and help participants set intentions for moving forward.

Activities & Therapeutic Exercise:
• Reflective group discussion: Key takeaways from the group experience and intentions for their relationships or personal growth.
• Visualization exercise: Imagining a positive, healthy relationship future (whether continuing the current relationship or seeking new dynamics).

• Homework: Final journal entry summarizing insights, personal growth, and any actions they plan to take to support healthier relationships.

Meet your Facilitator

Ummul Fatima

Ummul Fatima is a licensed clinical psychologist and research scientist specializing in child and adolescent mental health. With extensive experience in psychological assessments, psychotherapy, and research, she has worked closely with young individuals navigating emotional, cognitive, and behavioral challenges. Her clinical expertise includes comprehensive assessments of cognitive, personality, and neuropsychological functioning, guiding clients toward deeper self-understanding and growth.

Currently, at AIIMS, New Delhi, Ummul is engaged in research exploring the psychosocial correlates of COVID-19 in school-going adolescents. Additionally, she is investigating grief in neurological and neurosurgical conditions, examining its impact on both patients and caregivers. Her work is driven by a deep curiosity about interplay between mental health, illness, and resilience.

Beyond clinical and research settings, Ummul is committed to mental health promotion and preventive interventions, with a particular focus on developing culturally relevant digital tools that enhance psychological and subjective well-being.

Firmly believing in the interconnectedness of language, culture, and mental health, Ummul adopts a multidimensional and contextual approach in her practice. She sees healing as a deeply personal journey one that requires awareness, resilience, and self-exploration. As a clinician and researcher, she strives to create a collaborative space where individuals can step into their strength and navigate life’s challenges with clarity and confidence.

5 stars: 30 (73%)
4 stars: 9 (22%)
3 stars: 2 (5%)
2 stars: 0 (0%)
1 star: 0 (0%)

Finally a space without moral preaching

I had been carrying this suffocating secret for nearly a year, terrified of opening up to anyone. Being able to unpack what led to my choices without being attacked or called evil was life-altering. It helped me examine my deep emotional loneliness with honesty rather than endless self-hatred.

Deeply thoughtful, wished for two more weeks

The discussions around unmet intimacy and boundary setting were profound. Four weeks felt a bit brief to unpack years of suppressed resentment and figure out if reconciliation is possible. An extended six-week batch would be amazing.

Helped me write the commitment letter to myself

Writing down the boundaries I need to uphold for my own integrity gave me an ethical compass again. It helped me take full ownership of the hurt I caused without collapsing into self-pity.

Average experience for my specific situation

The prompts on emotional detachment were good, but my straying was connected to an intense workplace affair that is still ongoing. Navigating that daily proximity needed a bit more personalized guidance. Still, a very kind group.

Understood what I was really chasing

I thought I was just looking for physical thrill, but the reflection on core needs showed me I was starving for emotional validation and to feel seen as a person. That insight changed how I view my entire adult life.

Helpful exercises, needed quiet time after calls

Unpacking how much of my transgression was an escape from domestic overwhelm brought up intense tears. The sessions are emotionally heavy, so plan to keep your evening completely free afterward to decompress.

Stopped blaming my partner for my actions

I had spent months justifying my betrayal by pointing fingers at my spouse's coldness. The therapist gently helped me see that while our relationship problems were shared, the decision to cheat was entirely my own responsibility.

Clarified whether I should stay or leave

I had been sitting on the fence for two years, paralyzed by fear of breaking my family. The visualization exercise helped me envision what an honest, healthy future actually looks like. I finally made my decision.

Good cohort, wished for an alumni follow-up

Four weeks provided an essential turning point. An informal drop-in check-in two months later would help us stay honest about the boundaries we committed to.

Processed the grief that no one talks about

People assume that when you cheat, you do not feel pain. Processing the loss of my own integrity and the quiet grief of ending the outside connection was only possible in this confidential space.

Learned to stop using affairs as emotional painkillers

Whenever corporate pressure and domestic silence peaked, I sought outside validation to numb out. Recognizing that addictive pattern gave me the tools to sit with discomfort instead of running away.

Rebuilt my inner respect slowly

I came in feeling utterly worthless and broken. Leaving with clear boundaries, self-awareness, and a commitment to radical honesty has given me my dignity back.

Taught me how to hold space for my partner's pain

Understanding why I strayed was only half the battle. Learning how to listen to my spouse's hurt without turning defensive was the greatest practical tool I received.

Quiet and dignified peer atmosphere

No one tried to justify their actions or make excuses. It was just mature adults owning up to their choices and trying to chart an ethical path forward.

Neutral, wanted more focus on arranged marriage baggage

The concepts around unmet needs were solid, but navigating infidelity inside a conservative arranged marriage with joint family surveillance needed more dedicated nuance. Still, very respectful space.

Discovered what real emotional intimacy requires

I spent years believing that physical passion was enough. This workshop opened my eyes to the hard, daily work of emotional vulnerability, active listening, and showing up honestly.

Saved my marriage from silent rot

We were headed for a catastrophic divorce. The clarity I gained here allowed me to initiate difficult, honest conversations with my wife that we had avoided for a decade.

Empowering and tender environment

Admitting what I had done in front of strangers was the most terrifying thing I have ever done. The warmth and lack of judgment in this group gave me courage to heal.

Good cohort, wished for smaller batch

We were eight participants, so individual sharing had to be kept quite concise during the mapping exercise. A cohort of five or six would allow even deeper reflection.

Clear and compassionate roadmap

Moving systematically from understanding underlying motivations to relationship mapping, emotional processing, and future intentions was structured masterfully.

Found real connection beyond isolation

I honestly thought I was the only person in the world drowning in this specific brand of shame. Meeting empathetic peers who listened without judgment broke my isolation completely.

Constructive takeaways, pace felt brisk

We covered a lot of intense psychological ground in four sessions. A five-week format would allow more time for individual pacing between modules.

Taught me to separate impulse from values

Just because an old dynamic felt comfortable does not mean it was serving my long-term peace. Learning to align my daily decisions with my true values gave me real backbone.

Decent, but requires genuine honesty

You cannot hide behind excuses in this workshop. The facilitator was very steadying, but expect uncomfortable questions about what you were really seeking.

A masterclass in relational accountability

SoulUp has designed an offering that addresses a deeply stigmatized, painful reality with clinical elegance and genuine compassion. Essential support for anyone seeking clarity.

Grateful for emotional grounding

Walking away with practical boundaries, trusted insights, and genuine clarity on how to navigate my relationship forward without falling back into deception.

Allowed me to breathe freely again

The constant knot in my stomach has finally dissolved. Acknowledging my reality in a safe, confidential space gave me the courage to stop living a lie.

Learned to express unmet desires directly

Instead of pulling away into resentment, I now know how to talk to my partner about our emotional and physical intimacy with clarity and kindness.

Invaluable psychological clarity

The best step I took for my personal growth this year. Leaving with habits that protect my peace of mind, self-respect, and relationships daily.

Helped me communicate with calm courage

Explaining my decision to seek counseling to my partner was terrifying. The communication tools helped me present my intentions without sounding defensive.

Good group, schedule required discipline

Balancing Sunday calls with family responsibilities took careful planning, but the clarity and peace I took away made it completely worthwhile.

Forever grateful for this healing space

Walking away with practical boundary tools, wonderful peers, and genuine confidence in moving forward with truth and self-respect.

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What are SoulUp Groups?

At SoulUp, you'll meet people who get what you're going through and might be living some of the same realities. People looking for extraordinary conversations, just like you.

✔️ Small group, 6-8 people

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✔️ Weekly 75-minute online video sessions

How is confidentiality maintained in Groups?

Confidentiality in Support Groups is maintained using secure meeting links and enabling waiting rooms to control participant access. Participants are bound by mutual confidentiality clause within the group. and sessions are not recorded without explicit consent.

Are Group sessions done on video?

Yes, all group sessions are conducted on video via Zoom.

While participants are allowed to use pseudonyms - they need to be on video to make the most of the session.

What is SoulUp's refund policy on Groups?

1. After you have registered for the group and you'd like to opt out:
- Full refund if you cancel 30 days before the group start date.
- 50% refund if you cancel 16-30 days before the group start date.
- No refund if you cancel 0-15 days before the group start date.

2. If SoulUp cancels a group, we will refund the entire signup fee.

3. If SoulUp reschedules a group by more than 2 weeks, we will inform you and give you an option to opt out and get a full refund.

4. SoulUp reserves the right to remove participants from a group if found unsuitable to the group. In such cases participants are given the option of claiming the pro-rata amount left as a refund or using it for another service on SoulUp.

Can I use multiple discounts while signing up for a group?

You can use only 1 type discount while signing up for a group. Cash backs cannot be coupled with discounts either.

* Are FREE Peer calls available to everyone who signs-up for this group?

You can book 3 Peer calls for FREE as part of signing up for this group.

Please note: This is only available to first-time participants of a SoulUp group (those trying a SoulUp group for the first time).

How long has SoulUp been around?

SoulUp was founded in 2022 by Punita Mittal and Mahak Maheshwari - a team of IIT Delhi and IIT Bombay with more than 20 years of combined healthcare experience. SoulUp is redefining mental health through groups that are not only effective but also fun, social, and challenging.

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1. What is an online therapy or support group?

Online therapy groups or support groups are structured, therapist-led sessions where participants gather virtually to discuss and work on specific mental health or personal growth topics.

These groups offer a supportive environment and help members learn coping strategies and relevant techniques from the therapist. Participants offer each other encouragement, share advice, and provide emotional support, helping one another feel less isolated.

2. What benefits can I expect from joining an online therapy group or support group?

Participants in online therapy groups often experience improved mental health, a greater sense of connection, and enhanced coping skills. Group therapy provides structured guidance from a therapist, which can lead to valuable insights and personal growth.

3. How does online group therapy compare to one-on-one therapy?

One-on-one therapy is personalized, focusing solely on your needs, which can be ideal for in-depth, private work with a therapist.

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4. Are online groups effective?

Yes, studies show that online groups can be as effective as in-person groups. The online format provides convenience and accessibility while offering the same structured therapeutic benefits, especially for those who prefer the comfort of their home environment.

5. Will I have to share my personal journey in the group?

Sharing is encouraged but never forced. Participants are free to share only what they feel comfortable with, and many find that opening up gradually is natural and helpful for their own growth.

6. How do online therapy groups or support groups handle difficult emotions that arise?

The therapist leading the group is trained to manage challenging emotions. They provide tools and strategies for coping, helping participants process feelings safely.

7. Can I attend online therapy groups if I’m already in individual therapy?

Yes, many people find that group therapy superbly complements individual therapy, providing additional insights and social support, thus accelerating their healing. Also, users often join group therapy for a topic that they are not focusing on in their individual therapy sessions. Often, therapists themselves recommend their clients to group therapy for a specific area of their life.

8. How do I know if a support group is right for me?

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