Bhavik

31 | Divorced | Product Manager

I dated and then eventually married a person who had strong narcissistic personality traits. This led me to being suicidal at a point in life. Those were corona times and I couldn't afford therapy, I couldn't afford luxury of trips or vacation, the times were really tough professionally and I started facing challenges in my family and with friends.
I also started getting exposed to my darker side and that suicidal phase was a wake-up call. I was a happy person before dating this lady and how did I endup there? I took 1.5 years to analyse everything, understand my situations from my childhood to school to college to adulthood to dating patterns to dating this person to getting married to her.
As I understood a lot about how my brain and emotions function, I was able to identify what were the noises and what and why need to be decluttered.
As my family, her family and the friends were agaist my decision, I had to struggle alone against the society dogma of divorce. I had to become my own lawyer, psychiatrist and financial planner (for the alimony). This all required a lot of planning-execution and I eventually made through with having stronger relationships with friends and family.
I was also able to climb financially in just 1 year as I became way better at understanding basics of planning.
Since then, my motto of life is 'Question Everything'. I write a lot and I'm now able to have better relations, better clarity and I'm happy way more than I was ever before.

Have taken therapy.